Monthly Archives: January 2011

You Want To Bring A Child Into This World?

I remember asking myself that question a few weeks before our IVF cycle was about to begin at St. Barnabas. Our plane would be touching down on October 11th, 2001, and the never ending cable coverage still showed the black wisp of smoke trailing down from the sky to the site of the 9/11 attack.

It seemed selfish, almost irresponsible to be thinking about trying to make baby at that time. We had no idea if those kinds of attacks were going to become commonplace.  Would this become part of the American experience…trying to build a life, and hope another attack wasn’t eminent, hope the child you fought so hard to bring in this world wouldn’t be orphaned or have his or her life cut short in a blinding flash of fire?

Lisa’s desire to find her soul baby was undaunted by the world around her.  I think being designed to create life gives women more perspective than men when it comes to death.  While I pondered the loss of life, the memories that would never be for every person who perished, Lisa fought with all of her passion to bring new life into this world to start her memory book with her child.

That trip to New Jersey to go to that fertility clinic amid so much chaos resulted in the birth of a human being who has brought a rainbow of beauty that overshadows the darkness and sadness of the rest of the world.

Any doubt I had about bringing Elliana into such an unpredictable universe disappeared the first time I saw her comfort a shy friend who had fallen and hurt herself.  4 years old, and she was patting her and telling she would be okay.

Having a child makes the world a better place.

Arizona: A Mecca For Uncommon Courage

In light of some of the controversy over our Sherriff’s emotional but perhaps misguided and illtimed comments that Arizona has become ‘a mecca for prejudice and bigotry’ following the tragic events of this past Saturday , I feel compelled to rephrase what I hope he meant to say based on the facts of what happened that day. There have been so many sad stories… Continue Reading

Tragedy in Tucson: Explaining the Death of A Child To A Child

Saturday morning Lisa and Elliana were on their way to Elli’s ballet class, excitedly chattering about what role she might be cast in the company’s upcoming production of a Cinderella/princess ballet.  Fifteen minutes after they left the house, I got a phone call that chilled me to the bone.  Lisa was frantically telling me that traffic was… Continue Reading

The Right to Medically Assisted Family Building

A friend and fellow infertility veteran called me yesterday, and in the course of chatting we were mulling over Arizona’s recent attempts to legislate egg donation and cryopresevation of embryos. He has two beautiful boys as the result of egg donation and IVF. It made me wonder about the motivation behind the organizations trying to impose this legislation… Continue Reading